Self-criticism and self-compassion: Risk and resilience

In the NCS, self-criticism was associated with posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) even after controlling for lifetime history of affective and anxiety disorders.²⁰ Self-criticism predicted greater severity of combat-related PTSD in hospitalized male veterans,²² and those with PTSD had higher scores on self-criticism scales than those with major depressive disorder.²³ In a study of Holocaust survivors, those with PTSD scored higher on self-criticism than survivors without PTSD.²⁴ Self-criticism also distinguished between female victims of domestic violence with and without PTSD.²⁵

Self-compassion could be a protective factor for posttraumatic stress.²⁶ Combat veterans with higher levels of self-compassion showed lower levels of psychopathology, better functioning in daily life, and fewer symptoms of posttraumatic stress.²⁷ In fact, self-compassion has been found to be a stronger predictor of PTSD than level of combat exposure.²⁸

In an early study, self-criticism scores were higher in patients with panic disorder than in healthy controls, but lower than in patients with depression.²⁹ In a study of a mixed sample of anxiety disorder patients, symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder were associated with shame proneness.³⁰ Consistent with these results, Hoge et al³¹ found that self-compassion was lower in generalized anxiety disorder patients compared with healthy controls with elevated stress. Low self-compassion has been associated with severity of obsessive-compulsive disorder.³²

Eating disorders

Self-criticism is correlated with eating disorder severity.³³ In a study of patients with binge eating disorder, Dunkley and Grilo³⁴ found that self-criticism was associated with the over-evaluation of shape and weight independently of self-esteem and depression. Self-criticism also is associated with body dissatisfaction, independent of self-esteem and depression. Dunkley et al³⁵ found that self-criticism, but not global self-esteem, in patients with binge eating disorder mediated the relationship between childhood abuse and body dissatisfaction and depression. Numerous studies have shown that shame is associated with more severe eating disorder pathology.³³

Self-compassion seems to buffer against body image concerns. It is associated with less body dissatisfaction, body preoccupation, and weight worries,³⁶ greater body appreciation³⁷ and less disordered eating.^37-39 Early decreases in shame during eating disorder treatment was associated with more rapid reduction in eating disorder symptoms.⁴⁰

Interpersonal relationships

Several studies have shown that self-criticism has negative effects on interpersonal relationships throughout life.^5,41,42

• Self-criticism at age 12 predicted less involvement in high school activities and, at age 31, personal and social maladjustment.⁴³
• High school students with high self-criticism reported more interpersonal problems.⁴⁴
• Self-criticism was associated with loneliness, depression, and lack of intimacy with opposite sex friends or partners during the transition to college.⁴⁵
• In a study of college roommates,⁴⁶ self-criticism was associated with increased likelihood of rejection.
• Whiffen and Aube⁴⁷ found that self-criticism was associated with marital dissatisfaction and depression.
• Self-critical mothers with postpartum depression were less satisfied with social support and were more vulnerable to depression.⁴⁸

Self-compassion appears to enhance interpersonal relationships. In a study of heterosexual couples,⁴⁹ self-compassionate individuals were described by their partners as being more emotionally connected, as well as accepting and supporting autonomy, while being less detached, controlling, and verbally or physically aggressive than those lacking self-compassion. Because self-compassionate people give themselves care and support, they seem to have more emotional resources available to give to others.

See the Box examining the evidence on the role of self-compassion in borderline personality disorder and non-suicidal self-injury.

Achieving goals

Powers et al⁵⁰ suggest that self-critics approach goals based on motivation to avoid failure and disapproval, rather than on intrinsic interest and personal meaning. In studies of college students pursuing academic, social, or weight loss goals, self-criticism was associated with less progress to that goal. Self-criticism was associated with rumination and procrastination, which the authors suggest might have focused the self-critic on potential failure, negative evaluation from others, and loss of self-esteem. Additional studies showed the deleterious effects of self-criticism on college students’ progress on obtaining academic or music performance goals and on community residents’ weight loss goals.⁵¹

Not surprisingly, self-compassion is associated with successful goal pursuit and resilience when goals are not met⁵² and less procrastination and academic worry.⁵³ Self-compassion also is associated with intrinsic motivation, goals based on mastery rather than performance, and less fear of academic failure.⁵⁴

How self-criticism and self-compassion develop

Studies have explored the impact of early relationships with parents and development of self-criticism. Parental overcontrol and restrictiveness and lack of warmth consistently have been identified as parenting styles associated with development of self-criticism in children.⁵⁵ One study found that self-criticism fully mediated the relationship between childhood verbal abuse from parents and depression and anxiety in adulthood.⁵⁶ Reports from parents on their current parenting styles are consistent with these studies.⁵⁷ Amitay et al⁵⁷ states that “[s]elf-critics’ negative childhood experiences thus seem to contribute to a pattern of entering, creating, or manipulating subsequent interpersonal environments in ways that perpetuate their negative self-image and increase vulnerability to depression.” Not surprisingly, self-criticism is associated with a fearful avoidant attachment style.⁵⁸ Review of the developmental origins of self-criticism confirms these factors and presents findings that peer relationships also are important factors in the development of self-criticism.^59,60