A family’s loss
Beth Dilg, a mother in Maryland, lost her 7-year-old daughter, Savannah Martin, who was on the autism spectrum, to drowning in 2011. Ms. Dilg had been living in Oklahoma and raising her three children alone after separating from her husband. On a chilly February day, Savannah and her 2-year-old brother left their house after Ms. Dilg had asked her 11-year-old son to keep watch while she went into the bathroom for a few minutes.
When Ms. Dilg realized the two younger kids had left, she searched the property frantically. She shouted Savannah’s name repeatedly, but the child, who had limited language, didn’t come when called. “I feel like she knew what her name was,” Ms. Dilg says, “but it wasn’t like you’d call her name and she’d come to you.”
Ms. Dilg ran to a pond near her property after her 11-year-old son said that the two siblings were in the water. Ms. Dilg entered the water and grabbed her toddler, who had survived after having been kept afloat by his bicycle helmet. But when Ms. Dilg reached Savannah, she was already unresponsive. A neighbor helped pull the children out.
It can happen in any family. Even when a parent takes precautions, a child can slip out in a moment, perhaps while the parent is asleep or taking care of personal needs or if the child is at school or elsewhere.
“It’s unrealistic to say that you’d never take your eyes off your kid,” Ms. Dilg says.
She had tried to protect Savannah by starting her on swimming lessons, installing high locks on the doors, and trying to teach her about how to stay safe.
Still, children can be skillful in finding ways to escape, Ms. Dilg says. “These kids with autism are so smart. They may not be verbal, but they have this level of intelligence,” she says. “You always have to stay a step ahead of them.”
Ms. Dilg has been a longtime volunteer with Team HOPE, a peer support group with the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. She offers emotional support to parents whose children are missing or who have died, including the parents of youngsters with autism who have drowned.
Teaching first responders
If a child on the autism spectrum goes missing, searching for them can be complicated by their condition. For instance, some children cannot speak or aren’t able to respond to searchers calling their name. The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children offers training to law enforcement and provides search protocols for first responders.
The center has drawn on expertise from Laurie Reyes, an officer with Maryland’s Montgomery County Police Department. In 2005, Ms. Reyes created a special unit within the department to focus on safety for people at risk for wandering. They have conditions that include autism/intellectual and developmental disabilities, as well as Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia.
“We have a culture of awareness here,” Ms. Reyes says. All Montgomery County recruits and officers receive training in how to interact with those on the autism spectrum, who may not respond to police commands. Police also learn how to search, including immediately checking bodies of water. “We’ve had many times where we’ve located individuals in bodies of water,” Ms. Reyes says.
Don’t wait to call 911. When a child goes missing, time matters. Ms. Reyes advises families not to search on their own. “Call 911 right away,” she says.